Once You Turn 30

   Last night when i was with my dad at eye hospital i realize how everything change when you turn 30 or most probably you take charge for responsibility . Earlier than this my father  was only person who is  in charge like corona time my appendix operation or everything else. But yesterday when doctor ask me about age number of dad because he was under checkup process , and i delayed in reply as i never pay attention to this things. Its always my dad who is aware about each and every details of family member . In that my thinking period, mid of conversation they replied 59 and i sigh in relaxation, again he help me as always, either how would it sound as person who is accompanying patient is totally a numb.

   And just in that waiting period of routine checkup of my father , i realized that im no longer a kid now.    Now im a complete Thirty year adult person.

Thirty is a landmark year for most of us. All through our early adulthood and 20s, we hurtle through life believing that some day, before we turn 30, things are going to magically fall in place and life will resemble what we see in movies. Reality, however, has a way of derailing the best laid plans in surprising, cruel, hilarious ways. As a woman who has a year's worth of experience on the other side of 30, the last year has been an eye-opener. Here are 30 things that are in various stages of change within me, ever since I turned 30. This is, by no means, an exhaustive list and there are, of course, as many ways to grow older and wiser as there are people on the planet. But by and large, after endless hours of conversations with women friends in the same age and life stage, I've found these to be generally true.

You will realize that money doesn't equate happiness

In your early and late 20s, a lot of your life plans will revolve around making the most amount of money that you can. As you cross 30, this is likely to change. You will be drawn towards things - jobs, interactions, relationships -- that satisfy and nurture you on a deeper level. 

You will demand respect in life

As you grow older, you will understand yourself better, which will make you treat yourself better. You will stop caring so much about what people around you think of your life, while what you think and how you feel about your choices will become increasingly important. Once that happens, respect and dignity will become non-negotiable.

You will become fiercely protective of your time

As you grow older, you will realize, keenly, how valuable time really is and how little of it each one of us has, which will make you guard your time fiercely, choosing to spend it on people and endeavors that truly matter to you.

You will start cutting out toxicity from your life

Your 20s is the time when you feign being unaffected by all the frenemies you've gathered, as if your ability to have them around while still going about your business is a sign of your strength. In your 30s, you will cut toxic relationships and equations ruthlessly out of your life to make space for those that truly matter.

Sudden urge to reconnect with old friends

Old friends, the ones who know us from the time we were our unfiltered, silly selves, and walked with us when we had little more than our emotions to offer sometimes fall by the wayside in the humdrum and practicalities of life. When you grow into a phase where you start seeking out meaningful interactions, you will feel a sudden urge to connect with these people from your old life again.

You will be kinder to yourself

As you grow, you will realize that the only way to survive the harsh realities of life is by being kind - to yourself and others. You will stop judging your emotions from the sternness that comes with the idealism of youth.

You will no longer feel the need to keep seeking attention

When you're young and tempestuous, it's natural to keep seeking the world's validation and feeling the need to draw its attention towards yourself for fear of becoming irrelevant. As you grow older, you will be more secure about your place in the world and stop needing external validation quite as much.

Health will become a whole lot more important for you

Your body will change, sometimes not in the best ways. While you once felt unstoppable and invincible, you will now feel the need to take care of health - both mental, physical and emotional.

Family will take on a whole new meaning

As you grow older, you will confront the reality of your parents' mortality, as well as your own. It could come in the form of health scares, or when beloved old relatives start dying. It will come as a shock, and you make you a lot more thoughtful about the time you spend with family.

 The time When i loose my grandfather , the whole world changes for me. Now i'm no longer the same person who have number of demands and expectation from life. I start to feel like that any day  could be last day of my loved one as well as of mine too. So more and more i would like to spend my time with my family . I would like to mention each and every moment that they matter to me, and without them life is nothing.

You will wonder if time is flying!

With so many things to do and so much still remaining, days, weeks, months and years will seem that they are flying past, while you try to hold still. There will be moments when you wonder if time decides to sprout wings as you age!

You will make a very important decision about integrity

As you grow-as a person and in your career-you will find yourself at crossroads that will determine who you are as a person. Will you be the kind of person who will let ethics die a quiet death for the sake of material/ personal gain or will you be the person who is willing to fight for their moral compass? Your 30s is the time when you will have to decide.

Impostor syndrome is here to stay

Most of us who suffer from crippling self-doubt tend to think that there will come a moment in time or a level of achievement after which you will stop feeling that you got to where you are because of luck, not talent. Your 30s is the time when you will realize that some of us are meant to live with this curse for life. It's just that instead of paralyzing you, your imposter's syndrome will make you double down to become even better at life than you already are.

You will get more politically engaged

As you become more aware and attuned into the world around you, possibly with thoughts of raising kids at some point in the future, the politics of your time will start mattering to you on a deeply personal level.

Tolerance for b**ls**t will be at an all-time low

How could it not? Considering you're becoming increasingly sure of yourself, protective about your time and clear about the kind of people you want to allow in your environment.

But there will be increased sensitivity

You might not appreciate people feeding you lines of bull, but by 30, you will have encountered situations and dealt with circumstances that you could have never imagined, and they completely change the way you look at the world. Given all that, you will be inclined to be more sensitive and forgiving to those around you.

You will either like, or hate yourself

Depending on the choices you make when you reach those all-important crossroads of life, you will find deep satisfaction in the person you chose to become or feel great loathing for your choices. Either way, once you make those choices a few times over, no matter how they make you feel, it's going to be difficult to turn back.

Your relationship with spirituality might change

You may have been raised to be a religious person, but as you look increasingly inward and decide what matters to you, you might find yourself walking a completely different spiritual path than the one you inherited from your parents.

You will realise that all the things you were taught to value don't matter to you at all

Growing up, we are all handed a template of things that spell success and 'having it all together', this is likely to change drastically in your 30s, with greater self-awareness. You might find that having a husband or baby, owning a house, being at the top of the corporate ladder... None of it matters to you at all.

You will see people getting divorces

Sometimes, close friends get embroiled in ugly divorces and custody battles. You will invariably have a part to play when loyalties are questions and friends are divided up. Watching cherished relationships disintegrate will affect you profoundly, in both negative and positive ways.

You might make peace with the fact that marriage might never happen for you

No one is ever going to tell you that love and lifelong togetherness might not be your lot in life, for fear of being cruel and pessimistic. It doesn't have to be that way, though. You might realize that the kind of person you want to share with your life might not be easy to find, and that you might never find them. Being alone will also stop terrifying you, once you stop thinking of being alone as being lonely, loveless fate, and think of it as a considered choice.

You will start liking your own company

When you stop seeking external validation, you will start enjoying your own company, and me-time will not be restricted to pockets of time when no one was around, but stretches that you carefully carve into your schedule for your well-being.

You'll stop caring about trends quite as much

Whether it is about fashion, relationships or the way you live your life, if you're secure in who you are, you will stop caring about what others are doing or saying, or what the 'in' thing to do or not do is and do what works for you.

You'll probably stop making new friends, but the few you do make will mean a lot

As you grow older, it will be tough to find people who look at you from a non-professional perspective, without wondering what you can do for them. You will find it difficult to trust too many new people too. While that is unfortunate, the rare connections that you do make will be so much more valuable.

You will want the kind of house you grew up in

By this, I don't mean you will want to own a house, all I mean is that you'll want to live like an adult-someone who has clean, fresh linen in the cupboards for sudden guests, doesn't have the sink loaded with dirty dishes at any given time and has a stocked, clean kitchen.

You'll realize mom was right

All the life advice and gyaan you thought were too cool for will suddenly start making a lot of sense. The moments of realization will be humbling and bittersweet.

You will become more mindful about your food choices

While you could eat anything and everything at one point in your life, you will realize you no longer have the stomach, or the will to abuse your body this way anymore. In the spirit of doing right by your body, you will try to make some healthier food choices, even though it's going to be a tough transition.

Your life plans will span longer durations

Life plans will not change with weeks, months or even years. You will start looking at life from the perspective of how you want it to look a decade, two decades, maybe even at retirement age, and make plans accordingly. Now you know how people commit to 15 and 20-year loans, an idea unthinkable to you a few years ago.

Your lifestyle choices will start reflecting your beliefs

You might believe in fewer things, but the ones you do believe in will affect the choices you make, in all spheres. You will actually commit to doing something about the things you claim to care for, in your 30s.

You will have to make a conscious effort to not judge the "younger generation"

In your 30s, you will constantly find yourself judging people only a few years younger than you for their silliness and misguided beliefs. But then you will remember you were exactly like them, until you made your mistakes and experienced some seriously hard knocks in life. Your 30s will be the time when your natural instincts will make you want to judge the "youngsters", but you're not old enough yet to have forgotten what being in your 20s, footloose and fancy-free felt like.